my journey through the pursuit of love & happiness

what a girl wants

Posted on: May 15, 2010

1. a girl wants to feel special

Too obvious? Ask yourself what you are doing to make the woman you’re interested in feel special. No one is asking for daily or even weekly serenades. However, if you are trying to win a girl over this should be your focus. What text messages are you sending her to make her smile? Have you every genuinely asked her about her day? Once (and only once) I had a guy pay attention to what one of my preferred beverages was and he had it waiting for me when I came over to meet him before our first date. I was impressed.

If you’re a little more involved try a love note on her car. And if you really wanna be awesome ask her roommate to let in and see if she can give you guys the place to yourselves for the night. I’m sure any decent roommate will have no problem obliging this request. If you are lacking in the culinary skills order her favorite take out. Maybe light a few candles? And no television on in the background, try music instead. The goal should be to completely focus on her. No this is not an urban boyfriend myth that only happens in movies. I know people in real life with real life boyfriends who have done such things.

2. pay attention to her

Again, too obvious? Not to some growing boys out there.

You have to do this in order to make her feel special. Especially if you (casually) invited her to a group hang out thing you should not be paying more attention to other girls if you are trying to show you are interested. Playing it too cool makes a girl doubt you are actually into her and this miscommunication is never good for the beginning of a relationship.

Maybe it’s just me, but as a straight female (who has a man living inside of her), I get bored so easily in the beginning if a guy doesn’t give me enough attention. I’m not talking about someone all up on me knowing all of my business and following me around and calling me everyday.

I am talking about a guy initiating some form of contact like a chat/text/email/phone call. I’ve had guys sit there and say how much they like me and are into me but they never take the time to initiate any form of contact and they basically just take seeing me when the can see me i.e. they make no definite plans to assure that they will be able to be graced by my presence during the week. I can’t take guys like this seriously. Actions speak louder than words. If you are into me than you would make sure you are going to see me. You wouldn’t just assume. And you wouldn’t take me showing interest for granted.

3. honesty.

Even if you don’t think she’s the one but you enjoy her company– be honest. Let her know what you like about her. A girl wants to know where she stands with a guy and this isn’t possible if you are not honest. It’s okay to admit that you are interested in a girl for more than sex. Be up front about your expectations and what it is you want from the other person. Communication is key to any great relationship.

You are never truly going to get what you want with the opposite sex if you are not honest.

4. when you ask for forgiveness…

As you know just because she says she forgives you doesn’t mean she does. Seriously, go out of your way to reassure her about your feelings. Give her what she needs to be confident in what you’re saying is the truth. And don’t expect that just because she offers you another chance that she’s over whatever it is happened. Be patient.

It’s probably best that you go out of your way and do sweet things for her for no apparent reason (though you will both know it’s to get back in her good graces). It doesn’t have to be a dozen red roses, instead, why don’t you surprise her with her favorite chocolate bar to take her to a park for lunch. What about a massage or doing her dishes?

5. show me what you’re made of

Fight for her. Let me try and articulate this into other words …  This means she wants you be patient and fight for what’s best about her. This of course goes both ways and sometimes when you’ve dated a few people who are just bad people it’s really hard to open up. Be patient. Fight for her. Fight for her to trust you completely. Let her know that you want to see the other side of her. Let her know that you want more from her and ask for it. Fight for it and let her know you think she’s worth it. If she’s having a tough day listen.

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

"IF YOU CAN'T HANDLE ME AT MY WORST, THAN YOU DON'T DESERVE ME AT MY BEST" -marilyn monroe

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 3 other followers

calender

May 2010
M T W T F S S
    Jun »
 12
3456789
10111213141516
17181920212223
24252627282930
31  
%d bloggers like this: